I'm Dr. Drai, a board-certified OB/GYN, sexual health expert, and founder of Momentum Intimacy. Through my FDA-approved condom & lubricant line called Momentum, I help people improve their intimacy and have a more satisfying sex life. One important way to increase the intimacy in your relationship is to increase the romance.
Romance is common in the early stages of a relationship but quickly fades when the chase is over. It doesn't take too long before a relationship suffers from a lack of romance and intimacy. It certainly doesn't have to be that way. It's best if it's not that way! Keeping the romance alive is important in any intimate relationship.
Fortunately, there are many simple and easy things you can do to reintroduce romance into your relationship:
1. Hold hands. Holding hands is free, easy, and can be done nearly anywhere. It requires no effort, but it is meaningful. Holding hands is a simple and easy way to add a little romance to your life.
2. Shop together. It all depends on what you're shopping for. Shopping for a new shovel isn't all that romantic. But shopping for perfume, jewelry, or lingerie can be romantic.
3. Give a quick compliment. A quick compliment can be romantic, depending on the nature of the compliment. "I love the way you mowed the grass this week" isn't going to turn up the romantic energy. "I just love the way you look in your glasses" might just do the trick.
4. Take a short road trip. Get out of town and explore someplace new. It can be a nature area or a diner famous for its cheeseburgers. There's something romantic about hopping in the car and going on a little adventure together.
5. Turn off your phone. Give your partner your full attention. Turn off your phone and put it away. Your little games and meaningless text messages will still be there in an hour. Nothing says "You're not important to me" like having a conversation with someone while staring at your phone.
6. Date night. Go out on a date just like you did back in the day. Even the traditional dinner and a movie can be romantic if you haven't done it in a while. Share a big tub of popcorn and hold hands in the dark. This can lead to intimate moments later.
7. Flowers. Flowers are a cliché for a reason. Flowers aren't very practical, but that's part of what makes them romantic. What type of flowers does your partner like? You do know, right?
8. A small gift. A small, random gift is always kind and appreciated. It can also be romantic, again, depending on the gift. A 10-pack of pencils won't score a lot of romantic points.
9. Random text. A romantic text out of the blue is a great gesture that can enhance anyone's mood. Even a simple, "I was just thinking about you" text can brighten your significant other's day.
10. Show how excited you are to see them. We love it when people are genuinely happy to see us. Show your partner how much you care by putting on a display of enthusiasm for his or her arrival. Think about how an adult greets a toddler they haven't seen lately. That's the general vibe you're shooting for.
11. Random affection. A hug or a kiss at an unexpected moment can be very romantic. The more surprising, the more romantic, generally speaking.
12. Cook a meal together. Go shopping for ingredients together and then share the cooking duties. Cooking together can be both fun and romantic. You never know what dessert will bring.
There's plenty a motivated person can do to rekindle the romance in their relationship. Romance doesn't have to be overly expensive, complicated, or mushy. There are many simple, kind gestures that are romantic.
Avoid allowing your relationship to slowly drift off into a rut. You can put your relationship back on course, crank up the intimacy, and make both of you happier with easy romantic and sensual actions.
Thank you for reading this #MomentumLovers!
As always...I'm Dr. Drai, a board-certified OBGYN, sexual health expert, and founder of Momentum Intimacy. Through my FDA-approved condom & lubricant line called Momentum, I help people improve their intimacy and have a more satisfying sex life.