Hello #MomentumLovers! I'm Dr. Drai a board-certified OBGYN, sexual health expert, and founder of Momentum Intimacy. Through my FDA-approved condom & lubricant line called Momentum, I help people improve their intimacy and have a more satisfying sex life.
Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the bedroom? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you are married? What if you really do love your partner? What steps should you take then?
When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last approach. Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up. Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.
As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you should proceed. If that is the case, please continue reading on.
Below are four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom:
- Engage in Foreplay
When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.
If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so. Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.
- Be Spontaneous
When you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good. Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should please you. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?
Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first. Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place.
- Talk About Your Fantasies
One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. Is that the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.
Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.
- Experiment in the Bedroom
Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your options. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role-playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.
Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.
So there you have it! You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.
Thank you for reading this #MomentumLovers! As always...I'm Dr. Drai a board-certified OBGYN, sexual health expert, and founder of Momentum Intimacy. Through my FDA-approved condom & lubricant line called Momentum, I help people improve their intimacy and have a more satisfying sex life.