Before I came out as bisexual, I never in a million years thought that I would ever let anything near my anus. That part of my body only worked in one direction. But after having sex with dozens of men as the top (i.e., insertive partner), I saw how much pleasure they were in. Their eyes would roll to the back of their head when we had sex, and they would moan in a way that looked like they were having an exorcism.
So I decided to bottom (i.e., be the receptive partner). Ironically, it actually wasn’t a man who got me to eventually bottom but my girlfriend of the time. She had a kink for inserting dildos in guy’s booties, and since I loved her, I gave it a shot.
It definitely took a few times to get used to the sensation. At first, I was in pain. Then I thought I was accidentally pooping when she put something inside of me. (I was not, but my body very much associated things going in and out my rear end as pooping!) But the third time, I truly allowed myself to relax, and that is when the earth-shattering, toe-curling pleasure began. Since then, I’ve become a big ol’ bottom, and I couldn’t be happier.
I truly believe that every man needs to have something in his behind, at least once in his life. It doesn’t matter what it is—fingers, a butt plug, prostate massager, dildo, penis—they all work just fine!
Here are 5 reasons why:
1. It feels incredible.
I made this pretty clear in the introduction, but I’m re-emphasizing it here. It feels amazing, unlike anything you’ve ever experienced before. When you orgasm with something in your behind, you experience a full-body orgasm, compared to one that’s localized to your penis. So if you like sex and want to take your pleasure up a notch, then it’s a no-brainer, explore your backdoor.
2. It makes you a more compassionate lover.
Once you’ve had something inside you, I guarantee you’re not going to immediately jackhammer your partner the moment you stick it inside their vagina or anus. You’ll know just how painful that is. So you will be more compassionate and tender. You’ll communicate more with your partner. You’ll be a decent human being who’s not just concerned with his own pleasure!
3. You won’t skimp on the lube.
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not naturally lubricate on its own. You need to use lube—no ifs, ands, or butts. (Pun gleefully intended.) When having anal sex, you typically want to use a silicone-based lube like Momentum Silicone-Based Lubricant for Him. Silicone-based lubes are thicker and last longer than water-based lubes, so you won’t have to reapply them as frequently.
4.You get to explore toys!
Most women know the importance of sex toys. They know that it can lead to powerful orgasms. But guys, especially straight guys, are more skittish about using toys. For many men, there's this idea that you don’t need a sex toy—that you know what you’re doing by yourself—so you don’t need any outside assistance.
That must be one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard. Because you know what? However hard you try, your dick cannot vibrate on its own. And yes, you could attempt to put your own fingers up your rear end, but that will be awkward and uncomfortable. You need a specific toy for your anus. And trust me, once you start using sex toys, you’ll start using them a lot because it’s such an easy way to make sex more enjoyable for both you and your partner(s).
5. It turns on your partner.
You know how you get turned on by the mere idea of doing anal on your partner? Well, yeah, they got turned on by sticking something in you, too! Anal play is hot for all genders and all sexual orientations. And if you’re dating a woman, you get to give them the experience of being more dominant. They always have things being put inside of them, so it’s nice to put something inside someone else for a change!